People who are abusive

Information for people who are abusive:

If you are reading these pages because you are concerned about your behaviour towards your partner, well done for taking steps to consider what you need to do to change.
 
Change is possible.  It can take time, how much time depends on how embedded your behaviour patterns are and how motivated you are to change.
 
We all have expectations of our partners and behave in different ways when those expectations are not met.
 
Domestic violence involves a person hurting another physically, psychological / emotionally, sexually, and financially. Over time, a climate of fear and intimidation can be created. It can be viewed as one person using their power and control over another.
 
If you think you may be behaving abusively, you may feel caught up in the pattern of behaviours.  We hope this website can help you understand a little about yourself, what you are thinking and feeling and how this impacts on your behaviour.
 
Most domestic violence is exerted by men over women though women can also be abusive and abuse can take place in same sex relationships.
 
We encourage you to continue your efforts to change, read through the sections that you think apply to you and follow up on the contacts available, talk about your concerns.
 
Continue to seek help and you will begin to feel better about yourself.
 

Men who abuse their partners 

Women who abuse their partners