Who can help?

Leeds Domestic Violence Service (LDVS)
24-hour Helpline for anyone in Leeds wanting immediate advice, support and information
0113 246 0401

National Domestic Violence
24 hr freephone helpline for women
0808 2000 247

National Men’s Advice Line
0808 801 0327
Mon to Fri: 9am – 5pm

Making life safe, just and fair for lesbian, gay, bisexual and trans people. 020 7704 2040

Children and Young People
Childline 0800 1111 and
NSPCC Helpline 0800 800 5000

Leeds Social Services
Adult Social Care – 0113 222 4401
Children’s Social Work Services –
0113 222 4403
Emergency Out of Hours – 07712106378

Leeds Safeguarding Children Board (LSCB)

Local and National Support Agencies


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Leeds Domestic Violence and Abuse
Men who abuse their partners:
Sometimes when we argue I shout. She is scared of me.
I slapped her once and I promised myself it would never happen again - but it did...'
I get angry with him and I totally lose it...
Do you recognise yourself in any of this?
Are you concerned that your behaviour towards your partner is costing you your relationship?
Are you worried your children are witnessing too many arguments?
What is abuse?
Abuse is something that is said or done that hurts another person physically, emotionally, sexually or mentally. Domestic violence is abusive behaviour, physical and non-physical, which may occur frequently or infrequently and create a climate of fear and intimidation. 
Why does abuse happen?
Abuse doesn't just happen. Rather than being about loss of control, as a lot of people think, most of the time it's about you trying to be in control. It may not feel like that to you.
Asking for help for violence and abuse
It can be tough facing up to difficult problems. Changing abusive behaviours can be a long and difficult process.  We can help you make the changes you need so that you are safe around your partner and children. The information on this website aims to help you understand the problem and hopefully start to make some changes.
Effects of your abuse
It is important to face up to how your behaviour affects your partner and your children. The more you can understand what your behaviour is like for them, the harder it will be to behave badly towards them in future.
For more information, download the Impact of abuse on women, from the Related Documents section on this page.
The more you consider the effect your abuse is likely to have on your children, the more motivated you are likely to become to change your behaviour.
Form more information, download the Impact of abuse on children from the Related Documents section on this page.
Children, even if not physically abused, are affected emotionally and psychologically by abuse within the home.

Help for Gay and Bisexual Men
While much of the information about behaviours in heterosexual relationships may be helpful for gay and bisexual men, you can also download the booklet Choose to Stop for Gay and Bisexual Men produced by Respect.

What can you do? What help is available?
You can learn to understand your behaviour and try to change.
Talk about it
Respect Phoneline is a confidential and anonymous helpline for anyone concerned about their violence and / or abuse towards a partner or ex-partner. A team of skilled professionals can offer advice, information and support to help you stop being violent and abusive to your partner. They will listen to you and help you.
Call Respect Phoneline on 0800 802 4040 (Mon to Fri 9.00am to 5.00pm) it is FREE from landlines and most mobile phones. For more information visit www.respectphoneline.org.uk or email info@respectphoneline.org.uk (they aim to reply within two working days).
Around 1 in 5 arrests for domestic abuse crimes are for repeat offenders ​​